tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8045076187971015009.post8649531261064750379..comments2023-06-28T08:51:13.395-07:00Comments on FatChanceBellyDance: Director's Cut: Dad, pt. 1Carolena Nericcio-Bohlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17332153601619055688noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8045076187971015009.post-80084120124372123292010-05-28T13:54:11.893-07:002010-05-28T13:54:11.893-07:00my father had the patternless anger thing. but luc...my father had the patternless anger thing. but lucky me, he grew out of it, like a teenager coming of age. :)Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13125782500214190089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8045076187971015009.post-10054585889560500252010-05-02T10:10:00.040-07:002010-05-02T10:10:00.040-07:00I was put through many forms of abuse as a child. ...I was put through many forms of abuse as a child. To this day, I have a bipolar mother that I am still trying to work out my relationship with her and trying to forgive her for the past as well as the present. Now I have a child in this equation that needs a healthy relationship with her grandmother. I am a social worker and know that the things she says and anger my mom has is clinical and finally know it is not "me" she is angery at. It still hurts to hear your mom tell you things that are negative about yourself and it is really hard not to take it to heart. I have stuggled with self-esteem issues for years due to the verbal abuse. Dance has been my therapy for years and made me a stronger human being. I realize my mom can't help herself and it is a sickness, but I do know when to back down and walk away when she is in her mantic moods. I am so glad you are working through your relationship with your dad. You do understand you were only a child and you could not make it any better for him. Hiding away from the anger is what most children do and don't beat up your adult self for not stepping in. I look at my child abuse and know that I could not control my environment and I was just a child....a scared child. I believe it makes us who we are today. You are one of the strongest woman I know and your past made you who you are today. Keep working through this any way you see fit. I look forward to reading more about this.Hollie Schmidthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18152340069839979244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8045076187971015009.post-30454835283208996232010-04-27T13:55:16.927-07:002010-04-27T13:55:16.927-07:00I felt the same way about my mother, thank God tha...I felt the same way about my mother, thank God that we did have a small chance when she knew her time was short. I feel that as long as there is unfinished business with the people we love, there will be an opportunity of making it good, in this world or the next. God has given us that assurance.alizarinrosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08262892508488198659noreply@blogger.com